Each wedding has it's own beauty and
magic. And I am glad my family and I got to attend one. Last week my
husband, youngest son, and I were blessed to witness the wedding of very good
friends. And it was not surprising that the general feeling that day was of "thankfulness". The good vibe going around was of happiness
that at last each one found each other.
I guess the good feeling swept over me
that when my husband and I got home, there was this fountain of ideas that was
just wanting to get out and translate into words. So, there! I have come up
with some stuff that I want to share with all the bride and groom all over the
world to understand and think about.
To all the brides:
I would like to say, expect that your life
will be a lot different from what it used to be. Your days will no longer be
for you alone, but for your husband as well and I assure you that you will
enjoy each and every single day with him. Your nights would no
longer be alone but with that one person your soul has been searching for.
And I tell you, your nights will be filled with reassuring hugs and wonderful
bliss! When you wake up the first thing that you would see is your future with
him and that alone will make you want to get up and prepare him breakfast every
day.
To all the grooms:
In the same manner that your
“ex-girlfriend, now-wife’s” life will be, then that would true for you as well.
Your mornings will find you beside that one person who will make you whole.
That one person with whom you can start a family with and feel complete, more than
ever. That one person who, will always be there for you no matter what. Your
breakfast will no longer be just a grab of bite at a nearby
fast food store but something made out of love. And like your bride, your
nights will be filled with loving kisses, and mushy hugs.
To both:
But that will not always be the case.
There will be times when you will both disagree on things. It could be small
and petty, while some would be really big ones. You will feel alone and
disheartened but you know deep in your heart that no matter what, you will
always be there for your better half. There will be times when you’d feel the
need for assurance and it may or may not be given to you. Not because you love
each other less but because your individual minds do not really function in the
same way. Be understanding of each other’s weaknesses. Acknowledge that even if
you are one in spirit, you are still unique individuals and that should always
be a point of reference. Remember, it is that very distinct quality that drew
you to each other! Always treat each day as new! Do not exchange your gadgets
for each other’s companionship. Communicate! Ask each other how their day went.
Tell each other how your day was. Tell each other how you’ve missed them. No!
It’s not OA to do so if you think of every gesture as something done out of
love. Do not think that one is better than the other. Both of you are! Do not
downplay what your partner can do! Be proud of what each of you can do. Be each
other’s consultant. Reach a decision which both of you are sure of doing.
Listen to each other’s stories. When one fails, let the other lift him/her up.
Be proud of your spouse! Keeping your life private is different from letting
the other side of your world know that you are proud of them. Be a good friend
to others but never allow your friendship to jeopardize your marriage. Do not
have casual lunch out or dinners alone with the opposite sex even if you say
that you are just friends. You are putting yourselves and your relationship
with your partner at risk. Perhaps some of you would disagree but most
infidelities started on casual grounds. Respect your partner’s feelings. If you
know that your action will be something that would hurt your spouse, then just
don’t! It’s that simple. Do not start lying to each other, white lies are still
lies. To the man of the house be always
the first one to understand. Women are complex and wives are probably even more
abstruse. But remember, they will also always be the first one to try to
understand you. To the queen of the house, (and I am telling this to myself),
do not lose your individuality but at the same time be the woman your husband
can always lean on. Put good food on the table. Pray and make God the center of
your marriage! Honor Him for He made your love story!
Before getting married you each had a
vision... a goal… a dream you want to put into realization. Marriage should not
be a hindrance to your dreams but expect some changes that would allow you and
your spouse to get down on it together. Support each other’s dreams but make
sure that the risk you are about to take together are calculated risks with
minimal setbacks.
You will have kids and it is normal of course,
for couples to want to build their own family. Your children will be a reflection
of you. Make sure you are living examples of what you want them to be and how
you want them to act. But remember no family is perfect so be forgiving of each
other’s imperfections yet strive to be better for the Lord.
Never stop loving each other! Never stop
the romance! Feed your marriage with passion, never stop flirting with each
other! Romance and passion is not only for the young!
So to Rex and Tin, thank you for inspiring me to start my blog again. I know I won't be able to update as often but for me this is a good thing :) Congratulations and Best wishes to both of you! Let me raise my glass to that! ... Cheers!
Somehow daddy, you make me want to do more than I can. You've taught me that nothing is impossible as long as I put my heart and mind to it. Thank you for giving me room to grow, for supporting my endeavors. For cheering me up and cheering me on. You are my pillar of strength, my oasis, the love of my life, and half of my soul!
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